I tried to put this as nice as possible. I remember I talked with someone who asked if they could post something on their Facebook site honoring Gracie. For some reason this just put a pit in my stomach. I didn't and still don't want others posting anything about Gracie. They don't have the right to do that. It wouldn't be honoring Gracie when they didn't have a relationship with her. It would be using Gracie to draw attention to themselves....it just wasn't ok with me. However, I found out almost 4 years later that the Becker family saw this as "rules" and didn't like being told what they could and could not do. I was told they felt I had "Too many rules" and they would just stay away and wait until I figured it out. When a mutual acquaintance inquired about me to Jeremy's niece December 2016, she said, "She has too many rules so we just don't talk with her. She just had lists of what people could say or couldn't say and my mom just got sick of it." When I heard this I was so heartbroken. I asked George (Jeremy's Dad) if what I heard was true. He confirmed that it was. It was my fault the family keeps their distance. Thank God I have my family.
Saturday, April 8, 2017
March 31, 2014 FB Post: Here's What I Need....
As Gracie's Angel Anniversary approaches I'm struggling with overwhelming emotions. I've had several ask, "What can I do to support you and your family on this day?" How we grieve is such a personal thing so to try to find the answer to that question in an article, book or a friend who suffered loss won't do because they are not me. I realized I need to answer that question to avoid any unintended hurt. What to do?....I always welcome and appreciate any private notes, cards or messages of support so this week would be no different! Please don't feel you need to do anything but simply "like" this post. That's enough support and love for me! What not to do?.....I need to ask that there be no public displays associated with Gracie's Angel Dates. Public display for her Birthday is awesome and welcomed but that's not until May 28th! I may not always feel this way, but for this year, at this stage of my grief, this is what I need:) Thank you all for your continued prayers and support! XOXO
I tried to put this as nice as possible. I remember I talked with someone who asked if they could post something on their Facebook site honoring Gracie. For some reason this just put a pit in my stomach. I didn't and still don't want others posting anything about Gracie. They don't have the right to do that. It wouldn't be honoring Gracie when they didn't have a relationship with her. It would be using Gracie to draw attention to themselves....it just wasn't ok with me. However, I found out almost 4 years later that the Becker family saw this as "rules" and didn't like being told what they could and could not do. I was told they felt I had "Too many rules" and they would just stay away and wait until I figured it out. When a mutual acquaintance inquired about me to Jeremy's niece December 2016, she said, "She has too many rules so we just don't talk with her. She just had lists of what people could say or couldn't say and my mom just got sick of it." When I heard this I was so heartbroken. I asked George (Jeremy's Dad) if what I heard was true. He confirmed that it was. It was my fault the family keeps their distance. Thank God I have my family.
I tried to put this as nice as possible. I remember I talked with someone who asked if they could post something on their Facebook site honoring Gracie. For some reason this just put a pit in my stomach. I didn't and still don't want others posting anything about Gracie. They don't have the right to do that. It wouldn't be honoring Gracie when they didn't have a relationship with her. It would be using Gracie to draw attention to themselves....it just wasn't ok with me. However, I found out almost 4 years later that the Becker family saw this as "rules" and didn't like being told what they could and could not do. I was told they felt I had "Too many rules" and they would just stay away and wait until I figured it out. When a mutual acquaintance inquired about me to Jeremy's niece December 2016, she said, "She has too many rules so we just don't talk with her. She just had lists of what people could say or couldn't say and my mom just got sick of it." When I heard this I was so heartbroken. I asked George (Jeremy's Dad) if what I heard was true. He confirmed that it was. It was my fault the family keeps their distance. Thank God I have my family.
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