Dec. 2014...The Nutcracker

Valerie wanted to take Mary to see the Nutcracker and asked if any of the girls wanted to go.  I thought it would be nice to take Liv.  I was so apprehensive about going.  I would've taken Gracie and she would've loved it this year.  We all went.  While there, Angie turned and explained how sorry she was the Becker family didn't financially support or contribute when Gracie died.  They were all holding back on George's orders to see what we would need or rather, what we would ask for.  Well, almost 2 years later I wouldn't ever and won't ever ask them for a damn cent.  In tragic situations, don't you just give what you can in show of support?  So to not give a cent and wait to be asked, what does that communicate? It doesn't matter the Becker's didn't contribute money to ease the financial burden, it matters that I don't feel their support at all.  I guess Angie had to have said something to the rest and they are now reaching out due to now feeling financially obligated.  Here's the deal, it's about 18 months too late.  Our debt is ours and I don't want their money out of obligation now.  It feels like a check mark on their list but it will do nothing for me other than make me feel embarrassed and horrible and I don't need them causing me to feel worse.  When I tried to explain to Valerie, she made some comment about changing "life style" to afford things when they come up. Our finances have nothing to do with our lifestyle.  Do people really put $30,000 in the bank anticipating medical and funeral expenses for their children?  She has never had a hard day in her life.  She is prime example of self-righteous.  I called her back the next day and told her I didn't appreciate that comment.  Chalk another tally on the crazy board for me.  One more justification for them to stay away.  It continues to bother me.